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Barry Schwartz on our loss of wisdom on TED.com

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Barry Schwartz: “And, perhaps most important, as teachers, we should strive to be the ordinary heroes, the moral exemplars, to the people we mentor. And there are a few things that we have to remember as teachers.

  • One is that we are always teaching. Someone is always watching. The camera is always on.
  • […]they have come to the realization that the single most important thing kids need to learn is character.
  1. They need to learn to respect themselves.
  2. They need to learn to respect their schoolmates.
  3. They need to learn to respect their teachers. And, most important,
  4. they need to learn to respect learning.

That’s the principle objective. If you do that, the rest is just pretty much a coast downhill.
And the teachers: the way you teach these things to the kids is by having the teachers and all the other staff embody it every minute of every day. ”


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July 10, 2009 at 15:53

4 ways to make the power of gr(e)atitude work

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So, 3 (times 4) good things today:

Find / Remember / Recognize / Thank (at least):

  • 3 people that I’m grateful to have in my life.
  • 3 abilities that I’m glad I have
  • 3 things I’m grateful I achieved
  • 3 things I’m grateful to have/happen around

Also related to a former post, here’s a good part from an article wrote by David J. Pollay on the Positive Psychology News Daily site:

Gratitude Is a Bridge to Your Positive Future ©

Gratitude provides you with the courage to pursue your ambition in life.  Gratitude reminds you of everything that you have; what you remember strengthens your bridge to a positive future.  And there are four key ways to reinforce your foundation of gratitude.

A Reminder of Your Key People

First, gratitude reminds you of all the key people in your life.  Think of these individuals now.  Who are the people who advise you?  Who are the people who challenge you?  Who are the people who set you straight when you veer off course?  And who are the people who give you a hug when you need one?  Be grateful for these people; strengthen your bridge.

A Reminder of Your Strengths

Second, gratitude reminds you of your strengths.  Think of what comes naturally to you.  What do you do well?  What do you enjoy doing?  What do others say you excel in?  What are your gifts?  Be grateful for what makes you unique; strengthen your bridge.

A Reminder of Your Achievements

Third, gratitude reminds you of what you have achieved.  Think about what you have accomplished in your life.  What goals have you met?  What successes have you enjoyed?  Be grateful for your achievements; strengthen your bridge.

A Reminder of the Wonders Around You

Finally, gratitude reminds you of the wonders around you:  the warmth of the sun, the glow of the moon and stars, the current of a river, the ripples of a lake, the waves of an ocean, the comfort of a breeze, the colors of flowers, the majesty of tall trees, the utility of buildings, the speed of planes, and the power of trains.  Be grateful for the miracles of nature and the wondrous products of man; strengthen your bridge.

Dietrich Bonhoeffer, the German theologian, pastor, and Nazi resister, wrote about gratitude in this way:  “In ordinary life we hardly realize that we receive a great deal more than we give, and that it is only with gratitude that life becomes rich.”  When you fill your life with gratitude, you will experience the feeling of abundance in your relationships, your strengths, your achievements, and everything that is miraculous and powerful around you.

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November 3, 2008 at 16:55

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TV pollution

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October 19, 2008 at 04:34

Useful Firefox extensions

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(BYM) Blank Your Monitor + Easy Reading – Protects your eyes a little by turning the background of the webpages to black. You can easily de/activate it with the button in the statusbar.

No Squint – Simple and effective – set the zoom level of a page and it will remember it. Also, it brings back the zoom-with-Ctrl+mousewheel feature.

WikiLook – Don’t know what a word means? Install WikiLook, select the word and move the mouse over it – a definition will popup – clean, fast & unobtrusive = elegant.

Multirow Bookmarks Toolbar – does well what it says

Read it later – Found something interesting but don’t have the time for it right now? – just click a button and you’ll have it available when you want to.

AdblockPlus – No overt publicity = less crap on my Web, less pollution, cleaner, faster browsing experience.



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October 19, 2008 at 03:59

Happiness is not a station you arrive at, but a manner of traveling.

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From Positive Psychology News Daily

“Happiness is not a station you arrive at, but a manner of traveling.”
Margaret Lee Runbeck (1905-1956)

According to the book Emotions Revealed by Paul Ekman, the 16 types of enjoyable emotions include

  • sensory pleasures (
  1. visual pleasure,
  2. tactile pleasure,
  3. olfactory pleasure,
  4. auditory pleasure,
  5. gustatory pleasure),
  • amusement,
  • contentment,
  • excitement,
  • relief,
  • wonder,
  • ecstasy or bliss,
  • gratitude,
  • elevation,
  • schadenfreude,
  • fiero, and
  • naches.

Too many for you? Indeed, Matsumoto noted that some of these enjoyable emotions do not even have denotations in English, like

fiero in Italian (refers to the intense enjoyable feelings that occur at the moment when one wins a sporting events or solves a difficult problem),

naches in Yiddish (refers to the pleasant feelings we have when we revel in the accomplishments of our children), and

schadenfreude in German (refers to the delights we feel for ourselves when we witness the misfortunes of others).

I am so impressed by what he said that the emotion exists even when there is no such emotion “term” in some cultures. Regrettably, related about Asian societies are limited. In order to unpack the mystery of happiness, researchers could probably learn much from crosscultural angles.

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October 18, 2008 at 16:43


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January 1, 2008 at 21:34

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Why Humans Have Sex

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Book-a-minute on steroids, that’s how I think about this study.

In other words, read it and you’ll be more of a connoisseur (ahem :)

Here’s a glimpse:

1. I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted

disease (e.g., herpes, AIDS)

2. Someone offered me money to do it

3. I wanted to get a raise

4. It was an initiation rite to a club or organization

5. I wanted to get a job

6. I wanted to get a promotion

7. The person offered to give me drugs for doing it

8. I wanted to punish myself

9. I wanted to hurt/humiliate the person

10. I wanted to feel closer to God

11. I wanted to breakup my relationship

12. I wanted to breakup another’s relationship

13. I wanted to be used or degraded

14. I wanted to gain access to that person’s friend

15. I wanted to get a favor from someone

16. I wanted to enhance my reputation

17. It would get me gifts

18. I wanted to make money

19. I wanted to hurt an enemy

20. Because of a bet

21. It was a favor to someone

22. I wanted to end the relationship

For more like the above, you can download the pdf from here.

Written by flowingly

November 27, 2007 at 07:54