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The Power of Time Orientation – Philip Zimbardo @ TED

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Philip Zimbardo: “Now lets tempt four-year-olds, giving them a treat. They can have one marshmallow now. But if they wait until the experimenter comes back, they can have two. Of course it pays, if you like marshmallows, to wait. What happens is 2/3rds of the kids give in to temptation. They cannot wait. The others, of course, wait. They resist the temptation. They delay the now for later.

Walter Mischel, my colleague at Stanford, went back 14 years later, to try to discover
what was different about those kids.
There were enormous differences between kids who resisted and kids who yielded, in many ways. The kids who resisted scored 250 points higher on the SAT. That’s enormous. That’s like a whole set of different IQ points. They didn’t get in as much trouble. They were better students. They were self-confident and determined. And the key for me today, the key for you, is they were future-focused instead of present-focused.

So, very quickly, what is the optimal time profile?

  • High on past-positive.
  • Moderately high on future.
  • And moderate on present-hedonism.
  • And always low on past-negative and present-fatalism.

So the optimal temporal mix is

  • what you get from the past — past-positive give you roots. You connect your family, identity and your self.
  • What you get from the future is wings to soar to new destinations, new challenges.
  • What you get from the present hedonism is the energy, the energy to explore yourself, places, people, sensuality.”
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July 24, 2009 at 13:46

How to be happier

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I ask myself, “What are 10 things in my life from the last hour that I can be grateful for?” I ask myself “What are 10 doable things that I can do in the next hour that I’ll be happy I did?”

Lots of amendmends to make, but you get the spirit. I was at about no. 7 when I surprised myself smiling. :) (The mind was getting on a roll.) And at 8 I just remebered the most important thing that I did in the last hour, and that didn’t came to my my mind until then. Well, yes, retarded :) But happier, mind you. :)

Writing it down might help. Alot. I keep post-its handy, within arm-reach, that is.

Repeating is good. Dooh. :)

“But how about the IMPORTANT stuff?” I think it can only profit from the created momentum.

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July 16, 2007 at 04:50

Jumping over my shadow

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Paul Watzlawick about paradox – profound, readable, entertaining, educational, soul healing. Here’s a sample from Oxymoronica, a collection by Marty Grothe (via Cool Tools):

The superfluous is the most necessary.
Voltaire

Always remember that you are absolutely unique. Just like everyone else.
Margaret Mead

I shut my eyes in order to see.
Paul Gauguin

We learn from history that we do not learn from history.
Georg Hegel

Oximoronica

We are never prepared for what we expect.
James Michener

To be believed, make the truth unbelievable.
Napoleon Bonaparte

The final delusion is the belief that one has lost all delusions.
Maurice Chapelain

What we really want is for things to remain the same but get better.
Sydney J. Harris

When a dog runs at you, whistle for him.
Henry David Thoreau

Always be sincere, even if you don’t mean it.
Harry S. Truman

Man can believe the impossible, but can never believe the improbable.
Oscar Wilde

War is a series of catastrophes which result in a victory.
Georges Clemenceau

First I dream my painting, then I paint my dream.
Vincent van Gogh

We are confronted by insurmountable opportunities.
Walt Kelly, From Pogo

A man chases a woman until she catches him.
Anonymous

I want peace and I’m willing to fight for it.
Harry S. Truman

Study the past, if you would divine the future.
Confucius, in Analects

Love is a kind of warfare.
Ovid

All works of art should begin…at the end.
Edgar Allan Poe

Again, I can’t recommend enough Paul Watzlawick’s books for a fresh air of sanity and delivery from such apparent, but perverse wild & domestic stuff.

Paul Watzlawick - Change

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July 14, 2007 at 17:17

21,000 days of self-improvement :)

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The average man shaves approx. 20.000 times during his lifetime

60 years = 21900+15 days

– that’s what a shaving products marketer says. Marketing “facts” notwithstanding, if you do a good thing often, it’s worth continuing learning and doing it better :)

So many days to live, to enjoy, to get better… :)

A small, non threatening (see kaizen), habit takes say 21 to 36 consecutive days to become automatic and integrated in your life. That’s 10 to 17 such intervals per year. And after that, the investment effortlessly pays for itself for the rest of your life.

So it better be a good investment :))

We usually overestimate what we think we can accomplish in one year – but we grossly underestimate what we can accomplish in a decade.- Anthony Robbins

You cannot not do anything. If you stop doing a new thing, you get back to the old habits, which is nothing new, but not nothing:) Duh:)

We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same. (Carlos Castaneda)

 

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February 1, 2007 at 09:18

A Tree in the Forest — A Collection of Ajahn Chah’s Similes

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I found out about Ajahn Chan from the writings of Jack Cornfield.

If metaphors and abductive thinking spark your interest, you may like this free excellent book even if you don’t practice meditation. In case you do, it gets even better! And further.

“People have asked me about my practice. How do I prepare my mind for meditation? There is nothing special. I just keep it where it always is. They ask. “Then are you an Arahant? Do I know? I am like a tree in the forest, full of leaves, blossoms and fruit. Birds come to eat and nest, and animals seek rest in the shade. Yet the tree does not know itself. It follows its own nature. It is as it is”. – Ajahn Chah.

Category: Spirituality

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July 12, 2006 at 08:26

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